Being alone as a gay man has nothing to do with being single

A full calendar. Friends. A relationship. And still alone. On the difference between openness and being seen

There are men with full calendars.

Friends. Plans. A relationship. A life that makes sense on paper.

They’re not single.

They’re alone.

Some men learn early: I’m not allowed to be really seen.

Desire as something to hide. Feelings as something to manage.

It doesn’t go away on its own once you’re finally open about it.

Openness isn’t the same as contact.

Contact isn’t the same as being seen.

What would you see if you stopped looking away?